Both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day can be difficult for couples who are having difficulty conceiving. 

Because it’s tough to completely avoid these holidays, it’s important for men and women (and those who love them) to take an understanding, realistic approach to dealing with the day.

Below are some suggestions for getting through family-centered holidays:

1. Don’t ignore the fact that it’s Father’s Day.  But try not to spend every waking hour thinking about it, either.
2. Spend time with your own father or a father figure.
3. Plan to do something special with your loved ones.
4. If you need to talk about your feelings, do so.  (If you’re religious, know that many clergy make themselves available during these particularly sensitive times.) 
5. It’s fine to feel angry, resentful or uncomfortable.  Emotions are normal.  Just don’t take them out on those about whom you care.
6. If you already have children, spend time with them.
7. Remind yourself that infertility does not have anything to do with self-worth.
8. If you and/or your partner feel being around children will be difficult on this holiday, you may want to avoid going to places (such as restaurants, amusement parks, etc.) where fathers and children will likely gather.
9. Try to remain positive throughout the day.
10. Do something healthy for yourself.  For instance, if you like to exercise, plan a hike in the woods or a long bike ride in the country. 

What suggestions do you have for coping with holidays like Mother’s and Father’s Day for those who are struggling with fertility issues?  Feel free to comment.

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