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Friday, December 2nd, 2011
When couples show up at our clinic for their first appointment regarding fertility treatments, they bring a united front. They hold hands. They look at each other lovingly, excitedly. They are hopeful for the future they are working toward together.
Although undergoing fertility treatments is in itself a testament to the strength and future of a partnership, the actual process can emotionally wear down even the strongest couple. It is a strenuous process that can sometimes include setbacks, frustrations and fears. It’s difficult for partners to put into words their own fears because they don’t want to let down their partner.
It’s important to focus on this truth, that undergoing fertility treatments can bond you in ways you never dreamed possible. It has the ability to bolster your relationship and allow you to discover new strengths about each other. The key to making that happen is communication. Don’t be afraid to express to your partner your concerns, your doubts, your fears and most especially your hopes and dreams. Talk about what is happening to both of you, regardless of which one of you is undergoing the physical treatment at the moment. Remember that this is a journey you are both on together. Don’t lose sight of that!
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Wednesday, October 5th, 2011
It’s no secret that fertility treatments can elicit a host of emotional responses from the individuals and couples involved. That’s why it’s such a smart idea to really plan for the ways to deal with your feelings ahead of time.
Even if you are the most optimistic person in the world, it can be challenging to stay positive, especially if fertility treatments are proceeding slower than you’d like or if the options presented to you are not what you expected.
As you proceed with your investigation into the right fertility treatments for your situation, why not take the following factors into consideration?
1. Set up an appointment with a counselor.
Many therapists and counselors specialize in helping those who are undergoing fertility treatments. They can give you feedback on your (very normal) emotions as well as providing you with ways to get through difficult times.
2. Don’t define yourself by your infertility.
Many people fall into the emotional trap of thinking of themselves only in terms of their infertility. Remember that you are someone who has a lot to offer, and are not simply a man or woman who is having issues conceiving.
3. Be open about the way you feel.
Females and males who are undergoing fertility treatments can sometimes “shut down”, essentially pretending that their emotions aren’t happening or, alternatively, aren’t important. But they most certainly are!
4. Plan fun activities.
Don’t worry about fertility treatments 24/7! Start planning some fun activities to do alone and with your partner. Go out to eat, head for a hike in the woods, take a walk along the water… and reconnect with yourself and your relationship in a way that doesn’t have to do with pregnancy.
5. Stay on top of your emotions.
Finally, it’s critical to remain “on top” of your emotions. You may even want to start a journal so you can track how you’re feeling on a daily or weekly basis. This will help you achieve a stronger sense of confidence and poise throughout your fertility treatments.
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Friday, January 21st, 2011
Maybe you’ve re-married and you and/or your spouse have children from a prior relationship. Or perhaps you’re experiencing “secondary infertility” after having one or more kids naturally. Whatever the case may be, if you decide to choose a surrogate to help you have another child (or children), you’ll likely be asked plenty of questions from the kids already in the picture.
To help you have the conversation with them, we’ve designed a few ground rules to follow. These will enable you to avoid too much confusion or awkwardness as you move forward with your decision to use a surrogate.
Rules to Help You Explain Surrogacy to Your Current Children:
- Don’t lie. If you’ve decided to go with a surrogate, be honest about it.
- Be age-appropriate. If your children are young enough, they don’t really need to know the details. If they are older, they’ll require more information.
- Understand that they might not like your decision. Your children may be hesitant to embrace new siblings, regardless of whether you use a surrogate or not. Afford them the opportunity to express themselves without rebuke.
- Allow your children to process this information. Unless they’ve heard of surrogacy before, it might be an unknown and/or confusing idea. Give them time.
- If it seems to be appropriate given your circumstances, invite the child (or children) to come to a fertility appointment. (Be aware that it may not be a good idea for them to meet the surrogate; you will want to discuss that kind of approach with a counselor initially.)
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Friday, January 7th, 2011
One of the common complaints of couples undergoing fertility treatments is that the sexual intercourse becomes dulled and perfunctory. But it doesn’t have to begin to feel like a chore or become too routine.
Here are several ways to keep your sex life enjoyable during fertility treatments:
- Be creative in the bedroom.
- Be as spontaneous as possible. Even if you have to make love at a certain time or day, try to keep the spark alive.
- Don’t stop doing romantic activities together.
- Talk to one another if you feel like the sex is becoming lackluster. Communication is a key to a happier sex life.
- Don’t argue about sex; it will make it difficult to have a good experience.
- Don’t have sex when you’re exhausted; it will feel like a responsibility.
- Try not to use the terms “we HAVE to have sex today”.
In the end, if you begin to focus more on the fertility treatments and less on honing your relationship, it may be time to discuss the situation with your fertility specialist.
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Friday, November 5th, 2010
The rich and famous aren’t any less likely to need fertility treatments than everyday individuals and couples. That’s one of the reasons that it comes as no surprise to learn that Rod Stewart and his wife spent over two years investing in IVF treatments to conceive.
In August, the couple (Stewart is married to Penny Lancaster) announced that they were pregnant; however, what the world didn’t realize is that it took so long for them to have a child together.
Stewart, 65, and Lancaster, 39, have begun to discuss their IVF treatmentjourney publicly, including the struggles they experienced in their relationship while trying to have a baby. As Stewart has said, it was an “emotional rollercoaster” ride the couple endured as they waited.
Stewart and Lancaster went through three rounds of IVF treatments before hearing the good news. Though that sounds like many, various sources indicate that the average number of IVF treatment cycles needed before conception hovers closer to four.
As with all couples who have taken the fertility walk together, we wish Stewart and Lancaster all the happiness in the world.
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If you or someone you care about is interested in learning more about IVF treatments, please contact RSI. Our team is more than happy to help you as you investigate the best fertility treatment course(s) for your situation.
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Thursday, May 6th, 2010
With many couples waiting until later in life to have children, many are finding the need to visit fertility treatment specialists to conceive naturally. And while there are certainly many naysayers out there who speculate that older parents are somehow less effective than their younger counterparts, research and anecdotal evidence disagrees with that assessment.
The advantages of being an older parent abound and include:
- Financial Stability. Most older parents are not burdened by the financial concerns that burden younger parents.
- Relationship Stability. People who have waited to have children are often very in tune with one another. Certainly, they have their ups and downs, but they are generally very stable in terms of their partnership.
- Patience! Traditionally, older couples are more patient than are younger ones. After all, they’ve lived long enough to realize that not everything is an emergency or dilemma!
If you’re an individual over 35 going through fertility treatment procedures, never allow others to burst your bubble. You’ll be a wonderful mom or dad! Age has little to do with ability.
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Saturday, January 23rd, 2010
It’s kind of ironic — plenty of couples struggling with fertility issues hesitate to get any help with their fertility concerns.
Their fears come in a number of different varieties. Below are four of the most common reasons for not contacting a reproductive health specialist:
- Knowing means having to address. For some people, the reality of knowing what’s wrong will mean they’ll have to address those facts… and that can be tough for certain personality types.
- A worry about cost. The media has made it seem as if all fertility treatments are expensive; however, this isn’t the case. There are many avenues to conception that are extremely economical. It all depends on your particular situation.
- Fear of retribution from a partner. Women and men who are struggling with infertility may have a fear that a partner will be accusatory of it’s discovered that they are the “source” of the problem. While this is not always a founded fear, if you are in a relationship where you are too scared of your partner to uncover the truth, you would be wise to undergo a serious amount of couples counseling to work on your partnership before embarking on a journey to have children.
- Confusion about how to start. Luckily, this is an easy solution — simply pick up the phone and contact a reputable clinic like RSI. It’s really that straightforward.
Don’t allow the unknown to keep you from addressing your fertility concerns. Remember that it’s always better to have all the facts than to languish in the dark.
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