Miscarriages are often extremely difficult to accept, even when they occur relatively early (e.g., in the first few weeks of pregnancy) after conception.  Depression, weight gain, hormonal imbalances, cramping, bleeding and other physical and psychological side effects can all be a part of a miscarriage.

If you’re dealing with miscarriage, though, it’s important to remember that you’re ultimately in control of how you deal with your situation. 

Always remember that:

• The miscarriage isn’t your fault.  It’s highly unlikely that you could have done anything to change it.  You aren’t being “punished” for past sins.
• An early miscarriage isn’t anyone’s business.  If you didn’t tell people you were pregnant, you are under no obligation to talk about the miscarriage with them.
• You can ask someone else to tell people if you have a miscarriage after you’ve announced your pregnancy.  You don’t have to make phone calls yourself if you have a miscarriage and numerous people knew you were pregnant.  A good friend or relative will probably be happy to take on this task for you.
• It’s okay to grieve.  Even if you miscarry very early into your pregnancy, it’s all right to feel sad!  Others might not understand your feelings, but they don’t have to — you have a right to feel grief.
• You don’t have to have sex again right away.  Many times, people will try to encourage you by telling you to “have sex soon” and “get pregnant again“.  Though they feel they are being helpful, they cannot force you to try again until you’re ready.
• Know that you’re not alone.  If you do talk to friends about your miscarriage, you may be surprised to discover that they’ve had similar experiences.  Miscarriages might not be generally discussed, but they are more common than you might think.
• It’s okay to move on with your life.  Regardless of your miscarriage, it’s fine to laugh, to move on and to connect with people.  Everyone’s reaction is different, not better or worse than another.