For good or bad, we live in a society that suggests we have to be “upbeat” all the time, putting on a “happy face” despite problems.  When we’re asked, “How are you?”, we’re expected to say, “Fine, thank you!”  No wonder so many people with infertility feel embarrassed because they go through periods of sadness and depression.

If you’re one of the many men or women dealing with infertility, it’s important to know that feeling unhappy or “down” is completely normal.  It’s not a sign of weakness, nor is it something unusual.  In fact, reputable reproductive science specialists will always consider your mental health throughout your fertility treatment journey.

But what can you do in the meantime if you’d rather not make a phone call every time you’re feeling blue?  Why not try one of these methods of addressing your state of mind:

→ Acknowledge and accept your sadness.

→ Talk with someone who will listen without judging or trying to “solve” your emotions.

→ Do something that isn’t related to fertility issues, such as working out, going for a hike, taking a walk or reading a book.

→ Write down your feelings in a personal journal. 

→ Ask yourself if you’re being too hard on yourself.  (This is often the case.)  Infertility isn’t something you can control.

Remember that infertility and unhappy moments can often go hand-in-hand.  So allow yourself to have human moments of disappointment or even depression.  And, of course, if your mental state turns into one you cannot easily control, please contact your physician to discuss other steps you can take.